So many selfies…

So I came upon this image on my dashboard, and I’m not sure if the OP was being serious or ironic (I’m not sure what the user I reblogged it from thought of it either, for that matter…). But here’s my 2 cents on it-

My first impression was that this image stinks of elitism – the original creator ( …?) is clearly trying to show how shallow these girls are being while they’re taking selfies, instead of focusing on more important things like… discovering your true self? Pondering the big, deep questions of life? How to make glowy stuff come out from your head?

Of course, shaming teenage girls for having fun is nothing new. Think about the worst stereotypes of “teenage girls,” and then think about what those stereotypes would be like if they were about adults/men instead.

Teenage fangirls obsessing over the latest boyband(s) are seen as frivolous and immature, while male adults obsessing over their favorite sport team(s) are seen as passionate and loyal. (Also, the Beatles, originally considered shallow pop music, owe their popularity to their teenage audiences, who buy concert tickets and merch, and passionately cheer, and spread the word to their friends. And yet, some bands even complain about how many of their fans are “just” teen girls…how ungrateful.)

Teenage girls taking selfies is seen as narcissistic and vain, while some of our most famous portraits (the Mona Lisa, commissioned portraits of royalty/rich people, etc.) are basically expensive painted selfies. Not to mention rich people commissioning statues of themselves.

Maybe the pictures the girls are taking aren’t exactly serious or thoughtful, but they’re having fun with their friends while also celebrating the fact that they’re attending that event (a sports game?). And they’re still interacting with other humans (i.e. their friends), so I doubt they’re always obsessed with their phones/themselves.

Of course, it’s unhealthy not to take time for self-reflection or meditation, especially for teenagers who are still trying to figure out their place in the world. But we don’t have to be pondering the meaning of life for every moment of the day. If there’s one thing people need to know about themselves, it’s that they are a beautiful human being… so go ahead and take that selfie.

Bonus: GoT selfies?!



So many selfies…

Asexuality: the first ‘internet orientation’ 

“Asexuality has been called the first ‘Internet orientation’ because so many people discover asexuality and connect with the community online, but there’s also a strong network of meet-up groups in different cities.”

The term “internet orientation” sounds interesting – many (if not most?) people first learn about asexuality online. Sexual attraction is a very personal thing – it’s difficult to talk about why you’re attracted to certain people and not others, or even not at all. Perhaps it’s also a product of our culture – specifically, advertisers selling products by using sex, because (apparently) everyone wants it. As a result, asexuals often feel “broken” or “wrong” because they’re not interested in sex or romance, or they’re not attracted to someone they’re “supposed” to be attracted to. Not to mention the classic line “you just haven’t found the right person yet.”

It’s not too difficult to find examples of gay, lesbian, or transgender individuals throughout history, but how often will you find someone who’s asexual? With the internet’s capability to spread information and connect people from around the world, it becomes much easier to find people who share similar interests and qualities. It helps people find others like them.

I don’t really have much else to say that would be relevant to gender/media, but the term “internet orientation” really stuck with me.

Asexuality: the first ‘internet orientation’